Emily: Today’s question is from a listener who says he feels deceived by outdated pictures on online dating sites.He writes, “Dear Farhad and Emily, I’ve been online dating for just a short time and have run into this sticky situation twice now.The other person has misrepresented their body in the photos.In one case, she just provided headshots and used group photos to hide her body. She included pictures of her entire body, but must have used pictures that were very old.But I think that would ensure I’ll never get another date.” Signed, Duped and Disappointed.Farhad: No, I did not run into this problem, but I’ve heard that this is a common problem and I can see why it would pop up on online dating sites.
I could go on and on about my realization that online dating photography is actually bloody brilliant (as you know, Saskia from the UK would say), or I could just show you. I was amazed at how fun this shoot was, and that fun is written allllll over my face in every shot.
Now that you have a set of attention grabbing photos, you need to intrigue them with your profile.
With most apps these days, all you need to write (and all you have space for) is a few sentences, which seems easy.
If you’re funny, make a joke (not stolen from the internet). And do you really want to go on a ton of mediocre dates or a smaller number of dates with people who are really excited to meet you? As a bonus, questions like “What’s your favorite place in the city / activity / restaurant?
” can organically lead to planning that first date. Everything she said in his podcast just made perfect sense, I remember catching myself nodding my head in agreement as I walked down Park Avenue, listening.