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When I was a kid, my mother and I joined a very large "non-denominational" Christian Church, one of the earliest versions of the Mega Churches that exist today. I was in the children's choir, the community was lovely, and we sang from a song book with drawings of long-haired hippies.
Some choose atheism for scientific or (like I did) philosophical reasons. Like a good doctor, instead of being distracted and distraught by the fruits of their beliefs, focus on discerning the roots of their beliefs.I've had these discussions before, and enjoy them a lot if, and only if, both folks approach it as a lighthearted exploration of why the other believes the way they do... If you pull this off your turn will come in due time (and the same ground rules apply).7) Be patient, don't "respond" If they fall silent for a bit... Here's what works for me: Rules:1) Your purpose it to find out and explore what the other person believes and why.2) No proselytizing at all, even by implication.3) You are only seeking information about what and why they believe as they do.4) If the words "But" or "Yes But", or anything even vaguely resembling it, starts your next sentence.. When we got sober, my husband tried to find a spirituality that he could accept, but today he's quite happily a staunch agnostic or, as he calls himself, "aspiritual." Throughout our twenty-two year relationship, he's viewed most of my spiritual explorations kindly, supporting me as much as he could. He could care less about church and I could care less about trains, but we're partners so we indulge each other without complaint.
But when I returned to my childhood church, he struggled -- just like I struggled when he gave up all attempts at spirituality around the same time. Ultimately, being married to an atheist as a believer is just like being married to someone that loves football when you can't stand the sport; you tolerate the differences because that is what couples do.
Either way, we won’t be together anymore, and that’s sad. Rachel is a Christian and I am a heretical Jewish humanist. Christians and people of other faiths are different. I never will be that woman, and while I can understand her, empathize with her, feel pretty in her clothes, and love her deeply, I will never really know the depths of her experiences or the convictions of her beliefs.